“And I’m like ‘No, no no. Oh no, my mom is kinky!’ I got up and went into my mom’s room and I said, ‘So you’re into BDSM?’ So she gets a purple gym bag and plops it down and asks me, ‘Do you want to see my toy bag?’ and she pulls out this giant purple dildo and I’m like, ‘No, I don’t want to see your toy bag! No, I changed my mind!’”
I love, love, love this quote. It’s almost as if you can here her emotions and the tone in which she said this. It makes the story more interesting. Her mom is also into BDSM! And neither knew the other had an interest in it. It’s almost like kinkiness is a part of her nature and not nurture. I just love how coincidental this common interest is. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree…
“Whereas, people who are TNG are like ‘I’m going to go out and get five pounds of sprinkles and I’m going to beat you until it explodes.’ The easiest way to describe the difference would be a TNG person might hit someone with a ping pong paddle, whereas an old guard person may take a ping pong paddle and put nuts and bolts and screws on it and hit someone with that.”
As a complete outsider, there is a lot of terminology that I do not know. I even googled “old guard” and hardly found anything. Here, Janice explains the difference between generations in the community. There’s the TNG (the next generation) which is made up of 18 to 35 year olds. I really like how visual her explanation is. It is possible to imagine the younger generation as playful, bubblegum pop and sprinkles. Meanwhile, the older generation is really hardcore and more dangerous because of their experience.
“I think as generations change we go away from the idea that things have to be hidden away in the closet. We are learning to be more accepting of ourselves and other people in society. There are more people that are willing to be unashamed and unafraid of the stigma we hold ourselves to, what we like, what we do, what we practice on the private levels. We become more comfortable expressing those things to the rest of the world. Our generation is more brave than the generation before us. We don’t worry too much about losing our job, we can just start our own company.”
This is a good quote because it speaks of the liberal progression of society. As a culture, we are more accepting of deviancy now more so than before. She was talking about many people in the community being in the closet, much like those who are LGTB. There is a lot of self shame and embarrassment for some people who partake in BDSM. They don’t tell their friends, family, or employers for fear of being rejected or ridiculed. It’s gotten better though, she said.